I’m back already! Today’s post is a little impromptu and comes out of a ‘celeb’ story which was basically ‘going viral’ this morning.
This week Demi Lovato; pop star and Eating Disorder and addiction-recovery advocate said something in an interview which is reported to be ‘body shaming’, and specifically ‘skinny shaming’. Demi, in the aftermath of her own recovery, is typically found posting on twitter and speaking out in the media about self-love, confidence, and body acceptance – so you can imagine this seems a little out of character.
Demi was reported to say
“This will probably get me in trouble, but I don’t see anybody in any sort of squad that has a normal body,”
Here she is obviously referencing Taylor Swifts ‘Squad’ of beautiful and very stereotypically ‘celeb’ shaped (slender) women, which includes the likes of Cara Delevingne, Gigi Hadid and Kendall Jenner
Demi has defended her comment and is unable to see that she has anything to be sorry for.
So, instead of getting swept up by the stream of online ‘hate’, let’s think about this objectively. Demi’s comment may very well have simply been one with poor word choice, where she found herself saying ‘normal’ when what she really meant was ‘average’.
The average women in the UK is a dress size 16 – which does indeed, objectively at UK size 4-8, make Taylor and her girls outside of the ‘average’ women’s shape standard, or that which might be perceived as ‘normal’. However, their bodies are certainly normal – normal for them!
If we want to talk about body positivity, about ‘healthy at every size’, about loving ourselves and each other irrespective of aesthetics – then we must also accept that some people are slimmer, skinny, not curvy…whatever terminology you want to use! Irrespective of how this might be achieved – genetics, diets, surgery – no one deserves to be shamed.
Those with slimmer physiques, as much as we might not often acknowledge it, can also experience being body conscious, having low self-esteem and be just as sensitive to criticism. Let’s be realistic how important is the size of your waist?
Being body positive means embracing everybody’s bodies! Acknowledging that you can be beautiful irrespective of weight, or size, or shape…and that beauty is SO much more than what meets the eye.
How about, for today, we try not to body shame anyone. Then perhaps, if we can manage it for a day we can then manage it for a week or a month…. Let’s aim for indefinitely. Let’s aim for loving people for what they are, not what they are not.